• mOOn_platOOn said Sep 8, 2007...

  Phantom....I hope things aren't quite as bleak as when you woke up. I'm wondering why people are describing you as aloof? Maybe you're spending more time observing others than you think? Introspection is easy to fall into if you're a deep thinker, even in a crowd. What's your relationship background and approximate age?

• secretlife said Sep 8, 2007...

  hey phantom -- it's funny how others can see us in a completely different way than we see ourselves sometimes.   personally, i don't think it's so easy to meet the woman of your dreams in a bar-   have you considered joining an on-line dating service?       

• silverwhisper said Sep 8, 2007...

  phantomblogger, where might you normally go to meet men? do you live in a suburb, rural area, city? ed

• phantomblogger said Sep 8, 2007...

  Moon Platoon: Yes, I am a deep thinker.  I think so much sometimes I confuse myself..lol.  Anyways I am in my 30's and am not really looking for a man but would want companionship someone who I can share good conversation with, Learn from each other, same interests. I am not interested in sex at all. I believe that is suppose between married people.  I see how men don't want no part of me as soon as I open my mouth and talk about God or share my desires and love for God.     Secret life: Thanks for the comment. You are right in a way. and no I do not  join dating services. Not really my thing.   SilverWhisper: I don't really go out looking maybe that is my problem I got out of a 3 year relationship and I still love him very much, we were suppose to be married in a few months. I thought it would be easy to find someone like him without the sex involved. I live in a small city but close to the border of Mexico and its a military town.

• gingersoul said Sep 8, 2007...

  Secret..oh, my dear, i beg you to differ.... I met my ex husband in a disco club. He hit on me me while we were dancing and since then it was history. But ..not satified of his good luck, he also met his new wife in a bar.....she was a waitress, ex girlfriend of the bartender... Now you know where our family money went washed down......they are still married...so i guess you can meet the woman of your dreams in a bar, right?  Phantom....in a way i can relate with you very well......i am too in thinking  "Been there, done that"...and hopping from bar to bar is really not my cup of tea anymore...i went on an online dating service and i have had good experiences over all... Like you i wouldn't have any problem in finding a man, if i wanted...fact is ....this time i just dont know where to start again........and about thinking too much..dont even make me start....good luck... :-)

• Battycat said Sep 9, 2007...

  OMG phantom, I feel just the same, it's like listening to myself, if you find an answer, let me know will you :-)

• Daniel68 said Sep 9, 2007...

  Am I right in saying that when you go on a date, or even when you meet a guy - you bring God up and your deeply held beliefs and state that there will be no sex, that sex is only for married people. Do you say that?If so, well... I'd run away too. Just one man's take.

• phantomblogger said Sep 9, 2007...

  Thanks Gingersoul for you input, I appreciate any input and support I can get from anyone. Well, I hope you have a good night.. and take care

• Jenna said Sep 9, 2007...

  hey phantom....I am sorry you are feeling so sad.  The dating sites are really not so bad....It is hard to begin.....but there really are a lot of nice people out there. Just sign up.....you can control everything....who you talk to....maybe someone you would like to meet.  You are in complete control my darlin.   Take your time to heal.... Good luck to you sweetheart!

• husbandhater said Sep 9, 2007...

  Phantom I've been where you are and had two kids along for the ride. I was good enough to go to bed with just not great enough to call wife until I met my husband on a blind date b/c a relative of mines got tired of all the losers I use to date.(My kids were never around for that part b/c I didn't want them to see guys who were here today and gone tommorrow. I dated when they weren't around which didn't give me much dating time.) Your Prince Charming will come along soon. Just chill out on the one night stands. Perhaps this is what is stoping you from meeting Mr Right b/c you are not allowing him to be Mr.Right due to the fact that you are allowing him to be Mr.Right NOW!   This can be a very lonely existance. Open your self up to waiting and getting to know an individual. Whats the harm? Feel better Phantom. By the way love your name.

• phantomblogger said Sep 9, 2007...

  Jenna: thanks for the insight on the dating sight. I am just maybe not really ready to move on emotionally. I don't know but I do thank you for you taking time to read and respond that says alot.   HusbandHater: Thanks I am sorry you had been through that also. It really played a big part on my self esteem but I know now I am better then that, it his loss. Thanks and be blessed.   Battycat: sure I will let you know. And vice versa. I am thinking I am not ready. but anyways keep in touch... Be blessed.   Daniel68: Its obvious we have different beliefs but I respect that. I don't understand why can't a man date a woman without sex?  Let me know how you feel about it.. thanks for the comment have a great day..

• moi83 said Aug 5, 2008...

  I am so tired of hearing people tell me, "you are too beautiful to be sad," like being beautiful is a "free pass" for being human and having feelings like saddness. I have a boyfriend, we are both really buzy and i hate to feel needy so i don't call him like i want to, i pretend like i don't miss him, but i do. i think more than anything i miss just having a friend around to talk to without having to cook for or to have sexual intercourse, My name is Sam and i am sad. i wake up sad, i go to bed sad, unfortunateldy i do all this with a smile on my face. I need HELP.HElP

• jazzpianist said Sep 4, 2008...

  Hey, I sincerely hope things look up for you, phantomblogger. There are thousands of lonely, sad and depressed souls out there. I am one of them. I have no doubt you're attractive, but as a guy I have seen that can be both powerful currency and an awful burden for a lady to bear. Hope that you find what you're looking for, and more importantly that life brings you some joy here and there during the search.

• mOOn_platOOn said Sep 5, 2008...

  Well, you posted this on my birthday last year....hope  things are looking up now!!

• angieher1971 said May 10, 2009...

  on line dating service i don't think that work's but i don't know maybe i don't trust to many people if any one have ideas please let me know...Angie

• sckaterd said Oct 6, 2009...

  sometimes i just feel restless and i just want to get up and leave home and never come back, i tried it once i moved half way across the country and as soon as i settled in i ended up with the same empty feeling, im not sure what to do

• goldengirl said Nov 14, 2009...

  I am 25 and i feel as lonely and sad as you do or maybe even worse. I hate feeling like that and there is nothing i can do about it as i have tried everything.

• SteveSmith222 said Dec 9, 2009...

  Hi phantom. I can relate to many of the feelings you feel. I understand the feelings on lonliness. My friend has started his own blog site - Its new so im trying to get some feedback. This is a blog for anyone who feels depressed. Thanks

• mOOn_platOOn said Dec 9, 2009...

  O   To test your willingness to cling to life, I'd suggest squatting in the open door of an airplane at 13,500 feet above Lake Elsinore, looking down at the tiny structures and huge fields below, and staring outward at the surrounding mountains which you can now see beyond to the ocean, and then deciding whether or not you will step out into the abyss with nothing more than a jump instructor with whom you're sharing a parachute and to whom you are attached by 4 clips.   O  

• mOOn_platOOn said Dec 9, 2009...

  O   To test your willingness to cling to life, I'd suggest squatting in the open door of an airplane at 13,500 feet above Lake Elsinore, looking down at the tiny structures and huge fields below, and staring outward at the surrounding mountains which you can now see beyond to the ocean, and then deciding whether or not you will step out into the abyss with nothing more than a jump instructor with whom you're sharing a parachute and to whom you are attached by 4 clips.   O  

• gingersoul said Dec 12, 2009...

  mOOn...is that you???

• Lily1088 said Dec 7, 2010...

  I'm a 25 yr old lesbian. I've been very nostalgic and lonesome for several months now. I've been quite moody when I'm usually polite with people, but lately I feel there is absolutely no one who might be experiencing all these bitter mixed emotions and this frustrates me so much. I want to find that one individual who will make me smile with such immense passion and happiness. I realize I might be sounding off kind of lame, or perhaps I'm just too self conscious and should relax; I don't know... I feel lost and cold... neglected. I have realized I'm all over the place, but it's all way too much... my life is in shambles and I can't help if I feel this way. I'm a good woman with a huge heart. I just need words of enlightenment; or kindness. It's been very difficult trying to find that caring enough person to talk to. I'm sentimental and perhaps that can be a big problem for me in life, but this is who I am. Have a nice day(: everyone

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